Golden Handcuffs

Hi!

Late to the party, but I was a similar situation.

Worked at Hooly while it was still a pleasant place, but lately became political / toxic. I was seriously thinking about quitting but was held back by the golden handcuffs: I could do my job easily (at times, it felt I just needed to show up to all the meetings, not more than that, and enough time on the side to do a few hobbies) so it felt “not optimal” to drop the income.

Then I won the lottery. Reorg, position closed. I could have found a new place internally, but I decided to not do it.

When I left, I realized two things: how toxic my situation had become (but I needed to be in denial of it to be able to carry on), and how valuable my time was. I finally had time to do everything I’ve been postponing to do. I started exploring new directions. I got out of the bubble.

It’s obviously a very personal decision, and finances play a huge role. Fear of missing out or even worse, depending on that big salary makes it hard to quit. But if you get a hold on your finances and are on a good path towards your FIRE moment, they you feel much safer about it. You don’t want to get in a situation where you are eaten out by worries.

If the finances are more or less sorted out, getting out of the situation is very liberating. It’s been for me. I haven’t figured out what I will do when I “grow up”, I’m actually experimenting with multiple directions (starting a small business, advising startups/scaleups, angel investing, teaching) but at my own pace and without the stress I have before.

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