“Spend (even extravagantly) on things that make you happy while focusing on savings mercilessly on everything that doesn’t - that might be a longer way to FI, but it’s way more healthy psychologically.”
That’s how I’m rolling. Driving to Germany and buying groceries there saves me hundreds of francs and changed nothing about my hapiness. But reducing my vacation budget from 6k to 3k a year? Keep delaying to buy a new smartphone and living with a device that drives you mad? No way.
I think living frugal doesn’t mean that you don’t spend money at all. It’s just about spending money where you have real personal benefits.