My heart decided to not beat every now and then for 8-10-12+ seconds.
I believe this is something I’ve had for a LOT longer but recently it suddenly became much worse and a lot more frequent. I told my cardiologist that a lot of things fell into place in my mind - e.g. years ago a partner (I’m being a bit generous with that classification) woke me up in bed as she was terrified as she told me that she felt that my heart wasn’t beating. I should have taken it more seriously at the time.
I’ve had 2 other serious health scares in my life. One where the doctor walked in to meet me and he had a dreadful ‘bad news’ look on his face, the other not life threatening but severe ‘quality of life’ threatening. There’s a saying, when you’re healthy you can easily have 10 priorities in life, 100 things you ‘want’, etc. but when you’re not healthy there is only 1 thing that matters.
So, take good care of yourself. Think long and hard about what’s important to be happy. And (there’s another thread on the forum about this), think ahead about how you want to look back on your life when you’re 80. For me, more time spent on toxic corporate BS certainly is NOT what I want to look back on.
To add to this, we can all get caught up into chasing objectives while being blind to the real problems other people are dealing with. Just here in this thread, a few references of friends, etc. who had close calls or may be very ill. I’ve seen more than a few “This person has passed away after a terrible illness” messages on linkedin in recent months… people I worked with, who appeared healthy, my age or younger. It makes you realize that luck is a big factor in life.
I actually think FIRE aligns well with this as it is a strategy focused on positioning yourself to live on your own terms as soon as possible. For me, walking away from the toxic, energy draining corporate BS is a big part of this. SInce I’ve done so (and since my operation) I sleep much better, live healthier, have less headaches and other pains, and enjoy the day to day things in life much more.
I had that in the past, but it never really registered at the time as I was in my 20s and even when a colleague in a different office died in their 30s, I kinda just thought that it was normal and people died all the time. I guess being young and single, life didn’t matter too much. If I died, then it wouldn’t be such a big deal. It’s only after having kids and realising I have a responsibility for 2 children at least to their adulthood and potentially beyond that where staying alive becomes more important and impacts others.
well most singles in their 20s still have their parents and other family (and potentially friends from school/university) who care about them, though no dependents indeed.
Though talking about that, a very easy assumption to make is that your parents will go before you do, which might not be true if you die in your 30s/40s.
I still feel weird having my parents as emergency contact in my 30s, which works for now but eventually likely will have to change.
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On a more positive note, just returned from the UK where my wife and I were fortunate enough to attend the Oasis concert on Saturday. It cost a (small) fortune but every penny was worth it. Had been waiting for this opportunity for almost 30 years and it exceeded all my expectations - I’m a rational person but it was almost a spiritual experience - the tsunami-like energy of Oasis and the 90000 audience singing along all their anthems. The ‘warm up’ bands were excellent as well with Richard Ashcroft (The Verve) blowing the audience away (after Cast played an intense set).
FIRE is great, but we need to keep in mind that here and now is also important. Life is there to live, not just to plan ahead.
I actually have a fun little Oasis-related story. About 20 years ago, my family was on holiday in a tiny village in Tuscany, having dinner at a small local osteria. There weren’t many people around, but at the table next to us was an English guy. My father struck up a casual conversation with him, just friendly chatter about affordable places to have a nice dinner and what to visit in the area. The man mentioned he was performing nearby the next day, and all the while, my dad kept thinking he looked strangely familiar.
Well, fast forward to the next day and some research through the local newspapers, turns out it was Liam Gallagher himself we’d been chatting to.
Nice, I think there’s 3 reasons why Oasis is so big, in no particular order
So many of their songs are anthemic tunes
Liam/Noel are both funnier than the majority of standup comedians
Despite all the money and fame and success, they seem like blokes you’d enjoy having a bear with, e.g. I recall Noel being interviewed on a radio show and he was asked where he would be watching the Man City match that evening given he was in San Diego… he said something like “probably my hotel room” - a few minutes later a local Man City fanclub dials in to the radio show and tells Noel they’re watching the game in a pub in town… Noel’s response: great, give me the address once off air and I’ll come and join you… which is exactly what he did
I’ve been listening to Oasis almost every day since the mid 1990’s and will never stop doing so… until Live Forever is played at my funeral. Hopefully I’ll get to see them live again before then.
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